Seriously serious people. . . .

Say the Good Mornings with a greater insight and give away the compliments with a broader heart.

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Really? Are you serious?

You usually get that question when:

  1. You go round for your eighth three scoop vanilla ice cream with chocolate syrup, nuts and a final topping of chocolate chip cookies.(I don’t even know if you get that in the market!)
  2. You play hoopla and lose twenty times and you still pay the bucks because you want that cute white soft teddy.( oh my, that’s over the top. . .)

Please ignore the stuff inside the brackets, it’s just old me keeping me company. . .

So, when do you not get asked that question?

I know, it’s an odd question, but let’s give it a try.

  1. You walk into an interview, give the interviewer a sweaty handshake and say, “Good morning, sir”, with the best accent you can muster from your lifetime of watching old English movies, when all the while you’re screaming on the inside, “Help me, I’m freaking out!!!!!!!!!!”.

Well, that is a long and interesting answer.

And it is what I would like to talk to you guys today.

Words.

We talk a lot. We talk a lot more these days that we have to use Latin words like etcetera(which practically means-I don’t think I’ll be able to finish this!).

When we hear the word ‘talking’, what comes to our mind is a serious conversation, like a debate or a professional or personal exchange of information. But there’s much more in that circle. We say a lot of Good Mornings, pleased to meet yous and Good Days without even thinking about what we are saying. We don’t even care to look at each other’s faces these days.

I used to wonder when I was a kid why these small phrases were even ‘invented’. We use them in places where it applies to nothing we feel on the inside.

Talking of ‘inventions’, how did all this come about? Was there a public announcement that from that day on, ‘Good Morning’ was going to be the way we greet each other every morning? There had to be a time or a point in history when stuff like this mattered. Let’s think about all the possibilities. If this is something that is going to progress over the years, I don’t how many more words will end up in the garage.

But there’s another side to the story. There are times when we use words to elevate other people to a higher level of confidence. 

I had this experience a few days ago. Most of you who read my blog would know about my love for the guitar and music in general. Well, I was at this guitar competition for about a hundred schools in our region. I was sitting there, practising my stuff. I was looking around at all the other kids doing their last minute warmups. What I like about competitions is not the prize or the fame, but the experience and the relationships you build up in those places.

Every new person you meet puts down your chance of being alone somewhere in the world by a significant percentage.

So, I am sitting there and I meet this guy. He is an amazing guitarist. He was the one who bagged the prize last year. I’m sitting there looking at him play the guitar and I’m thinking, “Man, I don’t think he’ll even acknowledge my playing”. I am no good at notes. I don’t even know what a clef is! I ask him to play a few chords and I catch up with it with the one thing I know, making a lead for the background. I find the heart in what he’s playing and in no time we’re jamming. When I finish, he starts talking about how great my talent is and how I could take this to a higher level. He’s talking like I am the guy who bagged the prize last year. I know he’s just trying to make things easier for me but there was this tone of truth and friendship that made me believe him. That day, we walked out together. He came first and I came second. He is a part of my victory. The confidence and love he showed to me started a fire in me that I was able to take out on stage.

You can use words to elevate people though they may not actually be the ones worthy of it. But isn’t that like a white lie?

No it’s not. Think of it this way:

When you say to someone, “you are beautiful”, you are not saying that they are beautiful, but that you see them as beautiful. What we do is we give away compliments based on this universal scale. You pick out an average from what you think ‘beautiful’ is like for all the other people in the world and then you use it to give away a compliments and arrive at conclusions.

Try to ignore that and look beyond the global definition. This way, you can give any compliment realising that it is not an exaggerated comment, but an authentic standard set by you.

So what do we do about all this?

We say the Good Mornings with a greater insight and we give away the compliments with a broader heart.

I am going to ask you to join me in a chain reaction that I am going to set off right now with a compliment to you. ..

Dear reader,

Know that you are an amazing person, that you are a masterpiece in God’s eyes. A beautiful, talented and confident person who will definitely change this world for the better. . .

God bless you and have a great week!

Sticky notes. . .

It is from the small things in life that we draw inspiration to attempt the big challenges in life.

Life is so interesting.

Let me say that again.

Life is so interesting. 

We have reached a point in time where we have to say stuff like this twice to give it any meaning.

Life is so interesting😂. You open that door to your imagination and you turn into Alice in Wonderland. Everything is new, so different from what you see on the outside. It makes the difficulties of life seem so bearable. But today, I am not here to talk to you about the interesting life inside us we almost always fail to recognise. I am going to talk about what I like most- the small things in life. I would like to start by explaining the title.

Sticky notes?🤔

What in the world is that supposed to mean?😒

Well, this is why I gave that title to this post.

My cousins came for a visit a few days ago. They gave me this giant set of sticky notes. Yeah, a simple gift. But I was amazed at how much it impacted my daily life. It was like this spark of inspiration. It gave me this inspiration to organise my room that had turned into a junkyard over the years. Which would have to be some inspiration. And believe me when I say that a set of sticky notes did this. In a few days, my textbooks had sticky notes arranged neatly on every page.

It’s amazing what something new can do to your life. 

Look around your room. That table over at the corner, that is home to a pile of waste papers and notebooks? Clean that up and when you’re finished, spent a few minutes just looking at it. I mean literally looking at it. It’s called admiring your work, something we have  stopped doing. You will not be able to deny that spark. It’s like a void in your mind is being filled. Your creativity opens up to possibility and together they create this recipe for inspiration like no other.

The point I am trying to make here is that nothing in this life is unimportant. The boring bus rides home, your morning coffee, they are all important. It all depends on the way we define ‘important’. The world around us has influenced our daily lives so much that it now defines what is important and what is not. These small things in life put together an invaluable reservoir of inspiration, hope and creativity.

But though we deny it in our daily lives, the philosophy is alive everywhere. Look at the English alphabet. No letter in a word is important on its own. But put it with a group of letters or before a name. Suddenly, it becomes invaluable.

It is from the small things in life that we draw inspiration to attempt the big challenges in life.

We are constantly changing. We have changed a lot from the time when we were kids. When I was a kid, I remember looking around and thinking ‘how in the world did I get here?’. But now I don’t find myself asking that question, because in my search for truth, I realised that there is a God and that he loves me so much.

Over time, our priorities change and we find ourselves taking many things in life for granted like at the start of this post. We start to complain about life. We fail to find the fingerprints of life and creativity in the small things in life.

This post is about loving the small things in your life today. Look out the window today. Look at the sun going down and reach out and feel it. It is an unlimited and free source of inspiration. God gave that to you for free. No taxes.

Sherlock Holmes says, “Our highest assurance of the goodness of Providence seems to me to rest in the flowers. All other things — our powers, our desires, our food — are all really necessary for our existence in the first instance. But this rose is an extra. Its smell and its colour are an embellishment of life, not a condition of it. It is only goodness which gives extras, and so I say again that we have much to hope from the flowers.”

Man, he makes it so simple.🤔

Thank you, Sherlock. I’ve been trying to put that together for the past half an hour.

Anyway, draw inspiration from everything around you do today. Everything is important.

 

God bless ..  . . . . ☺

 

I don’t know everything

Most of us get fed up with life because we don’t know all the words.

A few days ago, I was travelling to my dad’s place. I had a few hours on my hand and I was getting bored. Most of us in the car had fallen asleep. So, I turned on my iPod, settled down and hummed and mouthed the words of the song.

We all love music in a very unique way. Today, with the discovery of the mp3 format, we have music everywhere. We go through the crazy hubbub of life with earphones in our ears. We find solace in music in the craziest of times. It just stays there, never really interfering with what we do, like a good friend. It expects nothing back.

A few months ago, I had published a post called silent music on why we find ourselves humming to ourselves(not even realising we are doing it), while we are doing something else like washing the dishes or copying notes. Music is a part of us that remains embedded to the roots of our world of thought.

WOW!

Today, I am going to talk to you about ‘the missing words’ in a song.

Well, what are the missing words?

Technically, ‘The missing words’ according to me are those words you don’t know in a song but fill in with unrecognisable vowels and sounds when you want to sing.

The point is, you don’t always check if you know all the words of the song before you sing it. Most of us listen to new songs on the radio, get mesmerised by the notes and just sing with what we have. It’s like that funny moment when you are at a family gathering and everybody knows this particular song which you don’t know and you jump in at the chorus with all the voice you have after a few stanzas to avoid suspicion and just mouth stuff for the rest.

Deja vu, right?

Well, anyway, I was thinking about this when I realised that’s how life is. Most of us get fed up with life because we don’t know all the words. We stop trying to build up a talent because half way up, we realise that we don’t have what it takes.

Well, that’s what I call a colossal lie. A ‘colossal lie’ is a lie you tell yourself( according to me).

Many things in life get tough before it gets easy.

If you don’t sing a song just because you don’t know all the words, you’re missing out, bro! That song inside you is unique and precious. It has many things to offer you wherever you are on the graph.

God made us  to be unique beings. When we don’t believe in the song he has given us, are we not missing out on the best. He has a plan for every one of us. You don’t know which piece of the puzzle has to put in next. But the piece you have right now tells you there is an other one.

So, this week, be happy for what God has given you. Try out new ways to improve your skills and don’t give up just because you don’t know all the words.

God bless!!!!

 

Definitions

If the world is defining you, you will always want to be the world. But if you are defining the world, the world will always want to be you.

The world we see around us today is filled with definitions. The average man always look up definitions, he never tries to make them.

We have organisations for that. Right?

Well, technically, yes.

But there is a great difference between defining something yourself and looking up a definition. It is that element of philosophy and perspective that only you can put into that subject of interest.

I believe that there is a God and that he created us unique. It is because we are unique that we need universal definitions to communicate with each other. Yes, they open new horizons. But they also bring with them many limitations. For example, when it comes to  emotions and feelings, what the world says may not be exactly what I think of them. Instead of following the trend and looking up definitions for our feelings from the world, why can’t we try to define them ourselves.

We all have dreams.

I do.

Crazy dreams.

I have these ideas in mind that I believe will change the world for the better. Ideas to start a new company and to write a new book. I even have this crazy idea about opening up a restaurant where you can see creativity everywhere. Most of them, I’ve realised over the years are not exactly going with the flow, when it comes to the current trend. But I still believe in those crazy dreams.

Why?

And here we come to the most important part of this post.

If the world is defining you, you will always want to be the world. But if you are defining the world, the world will always want to be you.

This is the greatest difference between the famous and the ‘ordinary’ guys like us( not that we’re ordinary, but you know. .. .). When you’re famous, you don’t have to look up definitions, you make them by default. Whatever you do, it becomes the latest fashion. We like to look them up. But you can be famous too, if you just do what they do best. Define.

In today’s world you are limited by what others say is a future. You might want to be a street musician but that is not a career option, according to the world. You might not want to be an engineer. But it happens to be a career option.

You see, you create change when you define differently. You become a trend-setter when you take the brave step of defining things that need to change in your life.

Look at companies like Apple. Even if there comes products that are so much better, they will still survive in the market for a long time. You know why? It’s because they defined social status and style. Two things you don’t expect a company like that to define. It became the universal trend.  They made the bold step of defining creative development and they won because the world is always looking for definitions.

I am not saying that you should define everything in life yourself. That never works. We are social beings and we need to have  universal definitions. But there comes a time when you have to define something different like when you start a new company or a new project. I believe in many definitions. It is an essential part of my life. But there have been times in my life, where I had to ‘step out in faith’. It’s always worth it.

The other side of the coin is knowing what you define and when you define them.

Do you know why companies need advertising and salesmen?

They are an important part of their workforce because they ‘define’.

So, the question I would like to ask you is,

Is the world defining you or are you defining the world?

Ask God what you need to define today.

 

 

 

 

 

Ticking hope.

The very fact that time is an unlimited measurement of uncertain possibilty keeps mankind filled with hope and open to oppurtunity.

It’s blog time.

It’s time for blogging.

I just said that.

I am sitting in front of my laptop, my headphones blaring with music, waiting for inspiration to strike.

Nada .. .

I look around the room. A waste paper basket? Pen holder? Ipod?

I rack my head for that creative brainstorm I had on the way back from my dad’s place. Remember just then that I did not have scribbly(my jot-down-your-ideas notebook) on me then. Well, that’s gone, for now.

My clock is ticking. Feels like a wicked laugh to me😒. There is this hidden element that makes me love analog watches more than digital watches. The dials keep going round in the same circle and it makes you much more conscious of time. Like right now. Maybe I should come back later.

A spider is making a web outside. She seems to be making a lot more  progress. Time changes things. ☹

Wait!!

Time. Hope. Change. My ticking clock.😂

And then I came up with this sentence:

As long as there is time, change is possible.

We all live around this clock. I get this picture of a clock with me moving round in circles instead of the hands. This clock tells us time is running and that he’s a pretty good runner. He’s the standard. The funny part of life is that, though not always, a disadvantage can be an advantage too. For us, time is the measuring scale. So, we get mad at it often. We love the word ‘unlimited’. It’s not our fault,. We work with a brain with unlimited imagination. But the combination is what makes life so special.

Something I like about Newton’s laws is that he always put the factor of time into them. Galileo is another great example. They thought of time as a factor instead of an imaginary field in which we are embedded.

Look at a photograph. It’s a still.

Photography is the one way we learned to stop time and keep on moving. 

Inside that photograph everything is a still. You can hit it and nothing will change. You can make all these crazy faces and nothing in that picture going to respond. There will never be a change. But in real life, there’s a difference. There is this beautiful factor of time. Wherever you are right now, be it in the worse possible place on earth, this beautiful factor of promises change.

Time is God’s canvas for painting miracles.

Time can change anything, because it is open to everything, every possibility and every opportunity.

So, if you are staring back at the screen waiting for inspiration or if you staring glumly at the ceiling because of a setback that hit you hard in the face, remember that as long as there is time, change is possible.

I love making background pictures for my desktop. And something I often do is, when I get a new sentence that motivates me, I pick a picture and put that sentence on it and put it on as my new desktop background. when you’re at work and you don’t know what to do and deadlines are shotting arrows at you, do something like this. It might take away a few minutes. But it’s worth it.

The very fact that time is an unlimited measurement of uncertain possibilty keeps mankind filled with hope and open to oppurtunity.

Got time?

You’ve got change .. . . . . . . 😉

 

When leaves bow. . .

What makes you sleep when it’s raining outside?

Today, I am going to talk to you from the eyes of a poet.

Do you like to sleep?

Oh yeah!!!!

You don’t know the number of times I’ve longed to get just 2 more minutes of sleep. At school I am the ‘sleepy guy’. Whenever I am learning something uninteresting, my mind starts to wander and before I know it, I am asleep, sitting.

Okay, that’s not the kind of sleep I like. That is what I call my ’embarrassing moment of the day’.

Coming back to the topic, I was in a similar situation learning something I felt so boring and my gaze shifted to the windows of my classroom. It was raining outside and as I looked at the drops of water that adorned the green clothing of the trees outside the pane of glass, I noticed something.

A tree was sleeping!

Yeah, I am talking from the view of a child, the greatest of all poets.

Scientifically, the drops of water on the leaves had caused it to bow down like a person dropping into a peaceful sleep.

It was so wonderful that I praised God for that moment.

Many a time I have wondered why I felt sleepy when it rained outside.🤔

Was it the cold breeze that drifted into my room, making the curtains flutter and embrace me?

Was it the clean life outside making it look like the earth had been put into a washing machine?

Or was it the peace, the beauty that has put an exclamation mark in front of man for a long time?

Or was it the sleep of nature, the trees sleeping and the birds looking on in wonder as they cuddled their resting young ones under their wings that moved me to sleep?

Well, I will not answer that for you because I just don’t know what words will describe this beautiful phenomenon.

I would like to end this short post with one simple question:

What makes you sleep when it’s raining outside?😉

 

 

 

Planning Conversations

Plan everything keeping in mind that God has the eraser. . . . 

Many of you would be wondering about this title. It has nothing to do with the scientific side of the world of conversations though.

Hmmm. . . 

How in the world should I start this post.

Well, let’s just say, I am talking about planning for the future.

From this simple start, all you mathematical supercomputers out there( which I unfortunately am not, yet) can figure out the whole post. Put the title of this post along with what I just said and you get:

Planning conversations= Planning the future.

Bingo!

But this necessarily does not mean what you may have deducted by the standard rules of mathematics. Which is why I want you to  keep on reading.

Funny right?

A great psychologist once said that a conversation is like a game of catch. You throw a ball to someone and he/ she throws it back to you.

There is one point that stood out from the many thoughts that passed my mind when I read this.

The success of this ancient game lies in how well you are able to catch an incoming ball and how well you are able to throw it back. The first part is usually the harder one.

So what does this have to do with planning for the future?

Well let me tell you.
Imagine future is a person. You and this imaginary person is having a conversation. You had played this moment in your mind for the past many years. Let’s just say it’s an interview for your dream job. You have practiced the lines. But at the interview, future asks you questions you never thought he would. You stammer.

The End.

Well this is what the future turns out for most of us. We try to plan everything not realizing that the future has some things planned out too.

So what do we do?

Well, that is where God comes in. He knows the full picture. Trusting him can give you a guarantee that no other thing in this world can give.

So, plan everything keeping in mind that God has the eraser. . . .