Baby Embrace

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It’s amazing what you can learn from a great relationship. The raw, sincere love that you come across in a relationship somehow jolts and shakes you violently, waking you from your dormant stage of inaction and makes you do something for other people. You learn to value life a smidge more.

Yesterday, I was sitting in the last row at church, attending a music event. As I sat there, I was looking on amused by the actions of a baby boy on his father’s shoulders.

He was just sitting there, his face like the face of any other baby, a face that is trying to make sense of everything around him. Things did change for him after he came out into this really bright place. No wonder babies have got a look confused at times, when they see us. They have a way of seeing through the words, mostly because they don’t understand them.

They make conclusions completely based on what they see and what they feel and sometimes by what they hear, especially when it’s too loud.😊

You know how when you ‘meow’ at a cat, it suddenly cocks up its head and looks at you like, ‘What in the world……’ and then looks around as if to ask the world ‘Has he lost his mind?’ Yeah, I love that look, which is why you’ll always see me ‘meowing’ at cats. Lol

You’ll understand why I said that in a few seconds.

Anyway, I was sitting there, persistent, determined to make him smile, but he just sat there, the little ‘daddy climber’ giving me the ‘cat- look’ ( described above ).

He seemed very amused by my special techniques to make him smile. So did many others in my row. So I put on my serious face and looked on.

He looked at me one last time, I could see a faint smile there, but then, he is one of the living alternatives to the ever smiling Barbie dolls. 😊 I just sat there admiring him.

He was tired, evidently ( as all my master techniques to make him smile had went down like a lead balloon (with smoke 😊)) But I still could see a lot in this baby on his father’s shoulders.

It was absolutely amazing. Every time he looked up to criticize my professional attempts, he would, after giving me the ‘cat-look’ lay his head down, in extra slow motion on his father’s shoulder. And every time he did that, I mean literally every time he did that, his father would react.

It was as if some shock had gone through the father’s body. I would see his hand hug the baby closer and his head would slightly tilt to meet the baby’s head. Every. Single. Time.

It was a gentle embrace. An extremely beautiful one. One that showed the small effort of a baby to show love and the greater effort of the father to give every inch of it back.

It’s the ‘baby embrace’. That’s how you hug a baby. You can’t hug him like you hug a grown up person, you have to go that extra mile and let him rest completely on you. And if you don’t, according to protocol…… He. Will. Cry.

I sat there trying to imagine that baby growing up, sitting on his fathers shoulder. I tried to imagine him on his father’s shoulders, thirty years old. Though odd, it seemed to make sense to me.

I’m not a father, but I believe, every time that father hugs him, be it twenty or thirty years from now, he is going to hug him in a way that his baby boy can completely rest on him. Every time he hugs him, he’ll be trying to put every drop of his love out there. Every time he’ll be doing a different version of the baby embrace.

And I doubt we as kids ever understand the depth of that embrace or the meaning of that embrace, a meaning that has its roots in a time that we will never remember. But then, maybe that’s what makes it so special.

I am already choking up writing this. And maybe you are too.

We are lucky to have parents. They are not perfect, they are human just like us, though we expect them to be so much more. For some of us, they might not be here today, for some of us, we might just have had an argument with them. But for all of us, they’ve left an inheritance of amazing hugs.

Next time you hug somebody in need, hug them the way your parents did.

Hugs and love……
Stefan

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56 thoughts on “Baby Embrace

    1. I’m sitting here in the dark at 2am reading your post. My little boy has a cold and I’ve just nursed him back to sleep, he’s lying beside me. I want to give him a hug but I know it’ll wake him and spoil all my ‘professional effort’ to get him back to dreamland…that’s why I sent you the hugs instead. You confirmed again to me that it’s all worth it, the sleepless nights, and everything in between. I hope my son grows up to be as amazing as you!

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      1. I’m sure he will be an amazing person. If you encourage him like you encourage me, I’m sure he will shine. Thank you so much. Your words just light up my day, so thank you.

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  1. I so agree with you Stefan and I can relate to this so much being a parent myself. Children make our worlds brighter. They love you wholeheartedly , without any motives. And their hugs, kisses and talks is what makes our days more lovely and energetic!😊

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  2. I absolutely love this post. As a mother of four grown children, I can’t express how much I miss those hugs. Babies hug you with their whole body. I still love hugging my children, but it’s not the same. If you have children, hug them every chance you get. It goes by more quickly than you can imagine.

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  3. Great post. A baby’s hug is unconditional love that melts any parent. My two boys are now grown and living their own lives and we see them infrequently. I hug them every time I see them. Laughed at your comment on a 30 year old sitting on his father’s shoulders. Both my boys are 6 feet, so not sure that would be good at 64.

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  4. “And I doubt we as kids ever understand the depth of that embrace or the meaning of that embrace, a meaning that has its roots in a time that we will never remember.”
    This just melted my heart, Stefan ❤ looking forward to more!

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    1. Thank you so much. I’ve been taking a break from blogging but I hope to come back soon. A lot of studying to do 😁😁. Thank you for the support. Really means a lot to me. Prayers and blessings 😊😊😊

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  5. It’s an interesting time when we reach early maturity and the bond between our parents starts to change, The love is there but it goes through a metamorphosis.It’s a fragile and vulnerable time for everyone, but if the foundations are right things blossom into something quite special. Lovely, heartfelt bit of writing, nice to see someone actually digging deep and sharing such rich emotion. Sorry I couldn’t like it, for some reason it keeps saying loading. Nice work all the same.

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    1. What a great comment. I love perspectives like these. You are very right. No worries, it’s not always about the number of likes anyway. Thank you for taking the time to stop by and comment and for your kind words. 😊😊😊😊

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    1. Hello, Tosin!!!
      So great to hear from you. I’m doing very well. I’ve been very busy for the past one month. God gave me an admission at one of the best universities in the country. So I’ve been busy with all the procedures. I’m hoping to get back to blogging once everything slows down a bit.

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      1. That’s great. Congratulations, this is such a great news. I’m so happy to hear this. I trust everything will go well as you prepare. Looking forward to hearing all about the new experience. Bless you dear

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