Seriously serious people. . . .

Say the Good Mornings with a greater insight and give away the compliments with a broader heart.

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Really? Are you serious?

You usually get that question when:

  1. You go round for your eighth three scoop vanilla ice cream with chocolate syrup, nuts and a final topping of chocolate chip cookies.(I don’t even know if you get that in the market!)
  2. You play hoopla and lose twenty times and you still pay the bucks because you want that cute white soft teddy.( oh my, that’s over the top. . .)

Please ignore the stuff inside the brackets, it’s just old me keeping me company. . .

So, when do you not get asked that question?

I know, it’s an odd question, but let’s give it a try.

  1. You walk into an interview, give the interviewer a sweaty handshake and say, “Good morning, sir”, with the best accent you can muster from your lifetime of watching old English movies, when all the while you’re screaming on the inside, “Help me, I’m freaking out!!!!!!!!!!”.

Well, that is a long and interesting answer.

And it is what I would like to talk to you guys today.

Words.

We talk a lot. We talk a lot more these days that we have to use Latin words like etcetera(which practically means-I don’t think I’ll be able to finish this!).

When we hear the word ‘talking’, what comes to our mind is a serious conversation, like a debate or a professional or personal exchange of information. But there’s much more in that circle. We say a lot of Good Mornings, pleased to meet yous and Good Days without even thinking about what we are saying. We don’t even care to look at each other’s faces these days.

I used to wonder when I was a kid why these small phrases were even ‘invented’. We use them in places where it applies to nothing we feel on the inside.

Talking of ‘inventions’, how did all this come about? Was there a public announcement that from that day on, ‘Good Morning’ was going to be the way we greet each other every morning? There had to be a time or a point in history when stuff like this mattered. Let’s think about all the possibilities. If this is something that is going to progress over the years, I don’t how many more words will end up in the garage.

But there’s another side to the story. There are times when we use words to elevate other people to a higher level of confidence. 

I had this experience a few days ago. Most of you who read my blog would know about my love for the guitar and music in general. Well, I was at this guitar competition for about a hundred schools in our region. I was sitting there, practising my stuff. I was looking around at all the other kids doing their last minute warmups. What I like about competitions is not the prize or the fame, but the experience and the relationships you build up in those places.

Every new person you meet puts down your chance of being alone somewhere in the world by a significant percentage.

So, I am sitting there and I meet this guy. He is an amazing guitarist. He was the one who bagged the prize last year. I’m sitting there looking at him play the guitar and I’m thinking, “Man, I don’t think he’ll even acknowledge my playing”. I am no good at notes. I don’t even know what a clef is! I ask him to play a few chords and I catch up with it with the one thing I know, making a lead for the background. I find the heart in what he’s playing and in no time we’re jamming. When I finish, he starts talking about how great my talent is and how I could take this to a higher level. He’s talking like I am the guy who bagged the prize last year. I know he’s just trying to make things easier for me but there was this tone of truth and friendship that made me believe him. That day, we walked out together. He came first and I came second. He is a part of my victory. The confidence and love he showed to me started a fire in me that I was able to take out on stage.

You can use words to elevate people though they may not actually be the ones worthy of it. But isn’t that like a white lie?

No it’s not. Think of it this way:

When you say to someone, “you are beautiful”, you are not saying that they are beautiful, but that you see them as beautiful. What we do is we give away compliments based on this universal scale. You pick out an average from what you think ‘beautiful’ is like for all the other people in the world and then you use it to give away a compliments and arrive at conclusions.

Try to ignore that and look beyond the global definition. This way, you can give any compliment realising that it is not an exaggerated comment, but an authentic standard set by you.

So what do we do about all this?

We say the Good Mornings with a greater insight and we give away the compliments with a broader heart.

I am going to ask you to join me in a chain reaction that I am going to set off right now with a compliment to you. ..

Dear reader,

Know that you are an amazing person, that you are a masterpiece in God’s eyes. A beautiful, talented and confident person who will definitely change this world for the better. . .

God bless you and have a great week!

The scientific stuff . . .

Some of us get down when we are on a 6 hour delay at an airport and Albert Einstein stops by to give us company.

My math teacher cocked his head to the right and enjoyed the circle he had effortlessly brought out on the board. He turned round and smiled at us as if looking for an affirmative response.

Well, I was too tired for an affirmative response. I just nodded my head. It felt like I had little elephants on my eyelids. But the circle intrigued me and awakened my creativity. There was something about math that made it special and gave it the status of a genius among the subjects of learning in our modern day schools. Math was the signature of logic and reason in a shapeless world of paper and pencil.

Well, I guess so. . .

I got to thinking about what ‘logic’ and ‘reason’ truly are.

Is there something called pure logic or is there something worthy of the prestigious title of ‘universal’ logic?

I am in grade 12. So, my info is limited to integrals and all the other stuff they teach kids that age. So, please bear with me when I come to this conclusion( and oh, please don’t hesitate to correct me).

Math and many other things in life we call as logical and voices of reason are what I like to call ‘divided logic’.

That formula you use for odd numbers, unfortunately will not help you with the even numbers. There is no logic or equation, where the and the  y can be anything. Here we are not limiting them to numbers. Let it be anything.

Yep! That’s right, brother. There’s that one problem. That one loop hole that always shows up in the end. I can almost imagine it, coming in at the end like Jerry does in the Tom and Jerry show, laughing his (mouse) head off.

😒

OK, that was a pretty weird joke. And I agree. But blogging does allow me to laugh at my own jokes. So, lets move on.😉

Some of us get down when we are on a 6 hour delay at an airport and Albert Einstein stops by to give us company. Let’s be honest here. We feel smaller.☹

But the truth is that it is a lie you are forcing down your throat. I believe that logic in it’s true form is not found in what you can see and touch, but what you can’t. In fact I believe that logic is embedded in it. I am talking about love, affection, kindness, forgiveness. That’s another reason why we love detective novels. They bring these things into the naturally logical equation. We are perplexed when these two( logic, reason and the abstract things like emotions) come together. Prediction becomes scientifically impossible.

So, what does all this have to do with our daily lives?🤔

Well, know that whatever our hobby is, maybe it’s reading( personally, I believe stories are filled with logic), maybe it’s football, or maybe it’s just sitting in a chair and just thinking. They are all filled with logic. It’s just like you were studying math or doing a hard trig problem. We just chose to put math as a universal logical language for communication purposes.😉

 

 

Sticky notes. . .

It is from the small things in life that we draw inspiration to attempt the big challenges in life.

Life is so interesting.

Let me say that again.

Life is so interesting. 

We have reached a point in time where we have to say stuff like this twice to give it any meaning.

Life is so interesting😂. You open that door to your imagination and you turn into Alice in Wonderland. Everything is new, so different from what you see on the outside. It makes the difficulties of life seem so bearable. But today, I am not here to talk to you about the interesting life inside us we almost always fail to recognise. I am going to talk about what I like most- the small things in life. I would like to start by explaining the title.

Sticky notes?🤔

What in the world is that supposed to mean?😒

Well, this is why I gave that title to this post.

My cousins came for a visit a few days ago. They gave me this giant set of sticky notes. Yeah, a simple gift. But I was amazed at how much it impacted my daily life. It was like this spark of inspiration. It gave me this inspiration to organise my room that had turned into a junkyard over the years. Which would have to be some inspiration. And believe me when I say that a set of sticky notes did this. In a few days, my textbooks had sticky notes arranged neatly on every page.

It’s amazing what something new can do to your life. 

Look around your room. That table over at the corner, that is home to a pile of waste papers and notebooks? Clean that up and when you’re finished, spent a few minutes just looking at it. I mean literally looking at it. It’s called admiring your work, something we have  stopped doing. You will not be able to deny that spark. It’s like a void in your mind is being filled. Your creativity opens up to possibility and together they create this recipe for inspiration like no other.

The point I am trying to make here is that nothing in this life is unimportant. The boring bus rides home, your morning coffee, they are all important. It all depends on the way we define ‘important’. The world around us has influenced our daily lives so much that it now defines what is important and what is not. These small things in life put together an invaluable reservoir of inspiration, hope and creativity.

But though we deny it in our daily lives, the philosophy is alive everywhere. Look at the English alphabet. No letter in a word is important on its own. But put it with a group of letters or before a name. Suddenly, it becomes invaluable.

It is from the small things in life that we draw inspiration to attempt the big challenges in life.

We are constantly changing. We have changed a lot from the time when we were kids. When I was a kid, I remember looking around and thinking ‘how in the world did I get here?’. But now I don’t find myself asking that question, because in my search for truth, I realised that there is a God and that he loves me so much.

Over time, our priorities change and we find ourselves taking many things in life for granted like at the start of this post. We start to complain about life. We fail to find the fingerprints of life and creativity in the small things in life.

This post is about loving the small things in your life today. Look out the window today. Look at the sun going down and reach out and feel it. It is an unlimited and free source of inspiration. God gave that to you for free. No taxes.

Sherlock Holmes says, “Our highest assurance of the goodness of Providence seems to me to rest in the flowers. All other things — our powers, our desires, our food — are all really necessary for our existence in the first instance. But this rose is an extra. Its smell and its colour are an embellishment of life, not a condition of it. It is only goodness which gives extras, and so I say again that we have much to hope from the flowers.”

Man, he makes it so simple.🤔

Thank you, Sherlock. I’ve been trying to put that together for the past half an hour.

Anyway, draw inspiration from everything around you do today. Everything is important.

 

God bless ..  . . . . ☺

 

I don’t know everything

Most of us get fed up with life because we don’t know all the words.

A few days ago, I was travelling to my dad’s place. I had a few hours on my hand and I was getting bored. Most of us in the car had fallen asleep. So, I turned on my iPod, settled down and hummed and mouthed the words of the song.

We all love music in a very unique way. Today, with the discovery of the mp3 format, we have music everywhere. We go through the crazy hubbub of life with earphones in our ears. We find solace in music in the craziest of times. It just stays there, never really interfering with what we do, like a good friend. It expects nothing back.

A few months ago, I had published a post called silent music on why we find ourselves humming to ourselves(not even realising we are doing it), while we are doing something else like washing the dishes or copying notes. Music is a part of us that remains embedded to the roots of our world of thought.

WOW!

Today, I am going to talk to you about ‘the missing words’ in a song.

Well, what are the missing words?

Technically, ‘The missing words’ according to me are those words you don’t know in a song but fill in with unrecognisable vowels and sounds when you want to sing.

The point is, you don’t always check if you know all the words of the song before you sing it. Most of us listen to new songs on the radio, get mesmerised by the notes and just sing with what we have. It’s like that funny moment when you are at a family gathering and everybody knows this particular song which you don’t know and you jump in at the chorus with all the voice you have after a few stanzas to avoid suspicion and just mouth stuff for the rest.

Deja vu, right?

Well, anyway, I was thinking about this when I realised that’s how life is. Most of us get fed up with life because we don’t know all the words. We stop trying to build up a talent because half way up, we realise that we don’t have what it takes.

Well, that’s what I call a colossal lie. A ‘colossal lie’ is a lie you tell yourself( according to me).

Many things in life get tough before it gets easy.

If you don’t sing a song just because you don’t know all the words, you’re missing out, bro! That song inside you is unique and precious. It has many things to offer you wherever you are on the graph.

God made us  to be unique beings. When we don’t believe in the song he has given us, are we not missing out on the best. He has a plan for every one of us. You don’t know which piece of the puzzle has to put in next. But the piece you have right now tells you there is an other one.

So, this week, be happy for what God has given you. Try out new ways to improve your skills and don’t give up just because you don’t know all the words.

God bless!!!!

 

Definitions

If the world is defining you, you will always want to be the world. But if you are defining the world, the world will always want to be you.

The world we see around us today is filled with definitions. The average man always look up definitions, he never tries to make them.

We have organisations for that. Right?

Well, technically, yes.

But there is a great difference between defining something yourself and looking up a definition. It is that element of philosophy and perspective that only you can put into that subject of interest.

I believe that there is a God and that he created us unique. It is because we are unique that we need universal definitions to communicate with each other. Yes, they open new horizons. But they also bring with them many limitations. For example, when it comes to  emotions and feelings, what the world says may not be exactly what I think of them. Instead of following the trend and looking up definitions for our feelings from the world, why can’t we try to define them ourselves.

We all have dreams.

I do.

Crazy dreams.

I have these ideas in mind that I believe will change the world for the better. Ideas to start a new company and to write a new book. I even have this crazy idea about opening up a restaurant where you can see creativity everywhere. Most of them, I’ve realised over the years are not exactly going with the flow, when it comes to the current trend. But I still believe in those crazy dreams.

Why?

And here we come to the most important part of this post.

If the world is defining you, you will always want to be the world. But if you are defining the world, the world will always want to be you.

This is the greatest difference between the famous and the ‘ordinary’ guys like us( not that we’re ordinary, but you know. .. .). When you’re famous, you don’t have to look up definitions, you make them by default. Whatever you do, it becomes the latest fashion. We like to look them up. But you can be famous too, if you just do what they do best. Define.

In today’s world you are limited by what others say is a future. You might want to be a street musician but that is not a career option, according to the world. You might not want to be an engineer. But it happens to be a career option.

You see, you create change when you define differently. You become a trend-setter when you take the brave step of defining things that need to change in your life.

Look at companies like Apple. Even if there comes products that are so much better, they will still survive in the market for a long time. You know why? It’s because they defined social status and style. Two things you don’t expect a company like that to define. It became the universal trend.  They made the bold step of defining creative development and they won because the world is always looking for definitions.

I am not saying that you should define everything in life yourself. That never works. We are social beings and we need to have  universal definitions. But there comes a time when you have to define something different like when you start a new company or a new project. I believe in many definitions. It is an essential part of my life. But there have been times in my life, where I had to ‘step out in faith’. It’s always worth it.

The other side of the coin is knowing what you define and when you define them.

Do you know why companies need advertising and salesmen?

They are an important part of their workforce because they ‘define’.

So, the question I would like to ask you is,

Is the world defining you or are you defining the world?

Ask God what you need to define today.

 

 

 

 

 

Daily Prompt: Priceless

Life will always remain priceless, regardless of who we are and who we become.

via Daily Prompt: Priceless  

Priceless. The word that we often overestimate and underestimate at the same time.

Since civilization began, we have always tried to categorize ‘stuff’, which is a synonym for the unlimited things around us.

We did accomplish that to a certain extent. Which led to what we see around us. Jobs, taxes, shops. Everything. This urge to categorize was stimulated by the ‘first list’.

What in the world is the first list?

The first list is that in which everything is priceless. I believe when man started his journey everything was priceless. But as time went on many of the things that were ‘priceless’ became a daily part of our lives and new things replaced them.

As time went on, globalization thrived and individuality became fashion. Somewhere along the way, we started to look back and develop the past. The past, which we had kept at the back of our closet in our pursuit of success, suddenly became ‘priceless’. A classic example of how our priorities change with time.

Human development occurs in what I call the expansion to the peripheries. We learn something, experiment it, and then move on to the next. We don’t collect the info and then develop it. This creates fluctuation in what we term as priceless. What is priceless today may not be priceless tomorrow.

But what really stands out as priceless in today’s world, is peace, love, trust and all the valuable things that came to our attention when the words ‘society’ and ‘community’ became unavoidable.

I heard someone say, you become depressed at two points in your life. When you have nothing and when you have everything. When you have everything, you become weary of pleasure. You realize what really constitutes human nutrition.

For the beggar, what is priceless to him is food, clothing and a decent home. To the celebrity, it is peace and purpose in life that is priceless.

In a world like today, what is priceless is a moral standard. Something that will hold our emotions together. But when it comes down to it I know what is priceless and will remain priceless- life. No matter who we are or who we become it will always remain so. This one point is what everything I said comes down to. So, this week love the life you have. Value it. Treasure it. I found life when I found Jesus. It’s been a ride ever since. I’ve realized there is so much more to life than we see on the outside. We often complain about life. I know it is hard to take advice from a 17-year-old but life is happening right now and you have to live it to love it.

God bless. . . .
Priceless

It/He/She

What you do becomes much more when you put a part of you into it.

Got a dog?

Those of us who do will have a lot of stories to talk about. About that day you walked in with a face that said out loud- ‘Ruminating on the Unfairness of Life’ and how your dog came running to you and put his head on your lap and said out loud without making a sound- ‘Can I cry too?’

Whether you are a dog person or not, you will surely be able to point out the difference between these two statements.

‘My dog? He’s doing great.’

‘It’s a dog!’

Yeah. The first person says ‘he’ while the other says ‘it’.

I was just looking out the car window one day, thinking about this when I realised how great an example this is to the way we address a new idea or a new resolution.

Why do some people call a dog ‘it’ and some others call it he/she.

Every pet dog  has a name. It is the first step we take in recognising the personality inside. We put a face to it and a heart to it but most importantly we put in a part of us. When you first talk to a dog, you are partly talking to yourself. You ask the question and you put together an answer from its expressions.

Man always wants another version of himself, the very reason why we try to change everybody around us before changing ourselves. Don’t believe me?

Bring a dog home and observe the way you train it.

But somewhere along the way, we realise that you have to adjust a bit too. You realise that that dog is trying to train you too and somehow you work out a system where you  and he can coexist.

But that’s what creates a relationship.

We all try out new hobbies from time to time. But something we always forget to do is to call it Johnny(the best doggy name I could come up with).

We  forget to see it as a person.

I still remember a few months back, when I started blogging, I was so excited. But I had to try out new things, sacrifice things I had going on, to make it work. But I still do it. I was not trying to be a teenage millionaire when I started blogging and I was not looking for fame. I was trying to build a relationship.( for your clarification, I am not a millionaire. I work on a 10 year old laptop to keep it short). The point is, you enjoy what you do a lot more when you look at a hobby like you look at a friend.

It’s been a few years since the day I first took a guitar in my hands. It’s not like I’m an expert or anything. I was a rebel, I think. I never wanted to learn it the scientific way, though I could have. I did not imagine myself with the London Philharmonic. I imagined myself by my bedroom window, looking out into the rain and singing to myself. I wanted to put a part of me into the instrument. but that’s what I think kept me at it. I look back and I often think why I kept on playing. I was horrible at first. But because guitar was a ‘he’ to me, I didn’t care what others thought.

So, what is the conclusion? You have a better shot at whatever you do when you see it as a real person. You put a part of you in it and before you know it, it becomes an inseparable part of your life.

I’d like to end this post with that cliché question part of all my posts,

New hobby? Is it an it/a he/a she?