The Third Person Watching.

As the person watching the movie, you were able to see that person in places and circumstances that the other characters in the movie( suppose they were real) were not able to.

Love movies?

Me too!!!

Today, I am going to give you movie lovers, something to think about.

Have you ever seen one of those movies where there has a been a misunderstanding and a relationship is broken because one of them made a mistake?

Remember how you kept hoping for them to come back together. Remember how you thought the person who messed it up deserved another chance? How you kept telling the other person to forgive.

Deja vu. Right?

Do you know why?

Because you were able to see that person in places and circumstances that the other characters in the movie( suppose they were real) were not able to. This made you much more sympathetic to that character. Much more sympathetic than the other characters in the movie. You had a better picture of what it would be like to be in their shoes.

So what?

Well, like Shakespeare did, let us imagine our life to be a movie, or a play. We get mad at many people. We all go through situations where we misunderstand people.

Are we going to think about what that third person would say? That person who knows the whole movie and every step along the way?

According to me that would be God.

I am a Christian and sometimes when I get angry at people I try to ask myself the question, “What would Jesus say?”.

We don’t know what it’s like to be in their shoes. Maybe we would look at them in a different way if we knew each and every part of the movie. It may not always be the reasonable thing to do. But one thing is true. If we would all ask ourselves that question, we may start a revolution of forgiveness and love.

We live in a world that is based on equations. A world where every reaction has an equal and opposite reaction. It always balances. But change occurs when we get a different result. When you forgive and accept somebody who has wronged you, an imbalance is created for the better. Something that makes them think and helps them to forgive somebody else.

So next time you have a chance, think of that third person.

And advertising your view helps to make a difference. When you do something remarkable for somebody you think doesn’t deserve it and others ask you,

” What are you doing, bro?” 

Tell them, “I’m thinking about the third person!!!!”

 

Look who’s talking!!

You are losing out on many a great advice because you are judging the people giving them to you. 

Hey, everyone. I am just popping in to  share with you something that passed my mind recently.

We human beings are great lovers of judgement and the drama that surrounds it. Well, not everyone, but most of us areWe like to read reviews of everything we see around us. We want info to make the right choices. We always look to the facts when we buy something. Something we never seem to get the hang of, is the process of seeing whether it is good for us.

It is based on this that I would like to talk to you today.

Ready?

Remember that moment when on of your friends said to you not to eat junk food when all along he was holding a giant burger with a procession of fries(other side dishes are optional, according to your imagination. LOL!)

Well, remember how you laughed and said, ‘Look who’s talking!!’?

Let’s remake that seen. This time let’s replace your friend with a doctor or somebody who you think knows what he is talking about. If he tells you not to eat junk food and he’s a vegan, would you take that advice the same way you took it when you friend gave it?

Say you took in that advice and did what they said. Will the result be any more better if you heard it from a doctor rather than your friend?

It was something that would do you good but you rejected your friend’s advice because you thought he was not worthy of giving you advice. In other words you labeled him a hypocrite(you use that word when you are discussing a graver matter, not junk food, but you get the idea). The advice will do you the same good be it from your friend or the doctor, if you learn to value advice not based on the person giving it, but based on the advice itself.

Anyway, who’s taking in the advice and using it?

You!!!

I hope you see what I am trying to get at. You are losing out on many a great advice because you are judging the people giving them to you.

So, next time, let’s think before we let go of some golden advice. I am not saying I am always doing this. This is my journey too. We may not be perfect always but we can always change.

I hope this has helped you in some way. God bless you. Keep your eyes open!!!

When the rains come. . .

Are you prepared for the rain?

I love the rain. We don’t have a television in our house. I am not somebody who is going to monologue on whether it is good to have a television or not. The world is changing and people today are more attracted to digital screens than many other things we used to enjoy. But that’s not what this conversation is about. I will have to confess that not having a T.V was sometimes pretty bad to cope with when I was a kid. But I have to say that it did one good thing for me. It turned me to the magnificent world of  books. When kids my age where watching movies, I would be sitting on a windowsill reading a book and watching my own movie. Books in turn, led me to appreciate nature and music. And from there came my love for rain.

Rain to me, is like a musical note. An orchestra of emotions conducted by the heavens. And when those drops of water pelted on the ground, it spoke of emotions, it spoke of life and many analogies would spring up in my mind as a kid. And I loved the thunder, I just loved it. It was like a Mozart composition with an electric guitar in the lead giving out notes filled with distortion. It had a rhythm that was always unique but always familiar. It would come down on different surfaces making different sounds like a drum set.

Well the rains never come until the clouds come. Many times we have to let the clouds hide the sun, so that the rains can come and wash us clean and help us to shine better in the sun. The bigger the clouds, the bigger the rain. Once the rains go the clouds go too. They are of one element. Just of different forms. You can make up plenty of analogies based on that like hard work and success.

When the clouds come, the rains come and fall down on us just like it falls down on the ground. And it renews us. It’s like you read in the Bible, showers of blessings. And when they do fall on us, besides bringing us joy and renewing us, it inspires others just like many poets and artists have been inspired by the rains they saw.

So, the question is, are you prepared for the rain? Are you ready to accept it? Have you made the decision to give away your temporary happiness for a longer one that inspires many others?

Preparing for the rain also includes something else. Planting the seeds. Preparing the fields for the rain. Those plants are going to grow up, transpire, and help bring about another rain. Are you planting seeds of hope, of resolutions and decisions. Just because you lost your New Year resolution does not mean it has to stay that way. Try again and again and again. And those plants are going to grow, nourished by the rains of joy from your hard work and they will bear fruits of many a kind, nourishing and planting seeds of all these values in any and everyone who passes by you in this life.

I hope that this analogy has helped you to see life with new eyes. God made us to be the best. Let us not give up hope. Let us try harder.