The diary entry in the cupboard

So often life can be like a white blank room with only you and your shadow. But that shadow will tell you that somewhere in the blankness of life, there is a light shining.

Just now, as I was rummaging in my cupboard, I came across a piece of paper. I had written this more than a year back when my grandpa died. I wanted to share it with all of you. I wrote this when he died, sitting on my bed after returning from the hospital. I want to dedicate this to every grandpa and grandchild and I hope you will build up on that relationship more after reading this.

 

‘Life has given man a lot of mysteries to solve. But the simplest, and yet, the most complicated of them all is the strong bond between a father and a son, a daughter and her mother, grandparents and grandchildren and the relationship among siblings. Walk into a hospital that so often takes away the mundane mist of life. A tear drops from the eyes of the wounded relative of a deceased soul and makes its mark on the shining hospital floors, but its life lasts only a few glistening moments as it is trodden upon by another, declaring the arrival of a new soul into their family. The tear is no more, neutralised by another tear of joy. This is life. These thoughts passed my mind as I waited outside the emergency ICU, waiting for information. My mother crying, not able to stop the pictures of her father from lifetime that was ebbing away showing that life is transient. Me and my mother were the last people to see him alive. I could not believe it. When I was a toddler, grandpa was an immortal, someone who would be there for everything. He was one of the most influential people in my life. He was an evangelist who stood up for what he believed in, no matter what others said. Their mocking laughs would bounce of him with such ease that I was sometimes surprised. To me, even today, nearing the end of my teenage years, his life is still the greatest legend. I was his only grandson and the eldest and I had such a wonderful relationship with him. Mother used to say I was his prince. He really did see me like a prince and he used to say it too. He was the greatest entertainer and the greatest thinker I’ve known. My grandpa passed down a lot of priceless things to me. Finding them has been the greatest of all experiences. He wanted me to know God and live a life worth living. He was a man of status but he used to bend down and take in people others tend to avoid. He was an inspiration. A man of tremendous patience, love, honour and humour, kindness, principles and value, we’ll never forget him for who he was.’

I am sharing this with you so that you will realise how great a relationship can be. It is the greatest philosophy.

So often life can be like a white blank room with only you and your shadow. But that shadow will tell you that somewhere in the blankness of life, there is a light shining. That is what relationships can do. It will be that part of you that will stick close by you and point you to the light. It will give you hope and lead you to the right place. In my case, it led me to God. It was the people around me that made me realise that God is no myth. God is a living truth. And today,  he is my best friend. He loved me by giving his life for me and he taught me to learn to give my life for others. That’s what Jesus did for me.

So spend your time on building up your relationships more this week. Ask God to bring into your life more people you can touch and heal. God bless you!!!!!

The Third Person Watching.

As the person watching the movie, you were able to see that person in places and circumstances that the other characters in the movie( suppose they were real) were not able to.

Love movies?

Me too!!!

Today, I am going to give you movie lovers, something to think about.

Have you ever seen one of those movies where there has a been a misunderstanding and a relationship is broken because one of them made a mistake?

Remember how you kept hoping for them to come back together. Remember how you thought the person who messed it up deserved another chance? How you kept telling the other person to forgive.

Deja vu. Right?

Do you know why?

Because you were able to see that person in places and circumstances that the other characters in the movie( suppose they were real) were not able to. This made you much more sympathetic to that character. Much more sympathetic than the other characters in the movie. You had a better picture of what it would be like to be in their shoes.

So what?

Well, like Shakespeare did, let us imagine our life to be a movie, or a play. We get mad at many people. We all go through situations where we misunderstand people.

Are we going to think about what that third person would say? That person who knows the whole movie and every step along the way?

According to me that would be God.

I am a Christian and sometimes when I get angry at people I try to ask myself the question, “What would Jesus say?”.

We don’t know what it’s like to be in their shoes. Maybe we would look at them in a different way if we knew each and every part of the movie. It may not always be the reasonable thing to do. But one thing is true. If we would all ask ourselves that question, we may start a revolution of forgiveness and love.

We live in a world that is based on equations. A world where every reaction has an equal and opposite reaction. It always balances. But change occurs when we get a different result. When you forgive and accept somebody who has wronged you, an imbalance is created for the better. Something that makes them think and helps them to forgive somebody else.

So next time you have a chance, think of that third person.

And advertising your view helps to make a difference. When you do something remarkable for somebody you think doesn’t deserve it and others ask you,

” What are you doing, bro?” 

Tell them, “I’m thinking about the third person!!!!”

 

Look who’s talking!!

You are losing out on many a great advice because you are judging the people giving them to you. 

Hey, everyone. I am just popping in to  share with you something that passed my mind recently.

We human beings are great lovers of judgement and the drama that surrounds it. Well, not everyone, but most of us areWe like to read reviews of everything we see around us. We want info to make the right choices. We always look to the facts when we buy something. Something we never seem to get the hang of, is seeing whether this judging is always good for us.

It is based on this that I would like to talk to you today.

Ready?

Remember that moment when one of your friends said to you not to eat junk food when all along he was holding a giant burger with a procession of fries( side dishes are optional, according to your imagination. LOL!)

Well, remember how you laughed and said, ‘Look who’s talking!!’?

Let’s remake that scene. This time let’s replace your friend with a doctor or somebody who you think knows what he is talking about. If he tells you not to eat junk food and he’s a vegan, would you take that advice the same way you took it when you friend gave it?

Say you took in that advice and did what they said. Will the result be any more better if you heard it from a doctor rather than your friend?

It was something that would do you good but you rejected your friend’s advice because you thought he was not worthy of giving you advice. In other words you labeled him a hypocrite(you use that word when you are discussing a graver matter, not junk food, but you get the idea). The advice will do you the same good be it from your friend or the doctor, if you learn to value advice not based on the person giving it, but based on the advice itself.

Anyway, who’s taking in the advice and using it?

You!!!

I hope you see what I am trying to get at. You are losing out on many a great advice because you are judging the people giving them to you.

So, next time, let’s think before we let go of some golden advice. I am not saying I am always doing this. This is my journey too. We may not be perfect always but we can always change.

I hope this has helped you in some way. God bless you. Keep your eyes open!!!

When the rains come. . .

Are you prepared for the rain?

I love the rain. We don’t have a television in our house. I am not somebody who is going to monologue on whether it is good to have a television or not. The world is changing and people today are more attracted to digital screens than many other things we used to enjoy. But that’s not what this conversation is about. I will have to confess that not having a T.V was sometimes pretty bad to cope with when I was a kid. But I have to say that it did one good thing for me. It turned me to the magnificent world of  books. When kids my age where watching movies, I would be sitting on a windowsill reading a book and watching my own movie. Books in turn, led me to appreciate nature and music. And from there came my love for rain.

Rain to me, is like a musical note. An orchestra of emotions conducted by the heavens. And when those drops of water pelted on the ground, it spoke of emotions, it spoke of life and many analogies would spring up in my mind as a kid. And I loved the thunder, I just loved it. It was like a Mozart composition with an electric guitar in the lead giving out notes filled with distortion. It had a rhythm that was always unique but always familiar. It would come down on different surfaces making different sounds like a drum set.

Well the rains never come until the clouds come. Many times we have to let the clouds hide the sun, so that the rains can come and wash us clean and help us to shine better in the sun. The bigger the clouds, the bigger the rain. Once the rains go the clouds go too. They are of one element. Just of different forms. You can make up plenty of analogies based on that like hard work and success.

When the clouds come, the rains come and fall down on us just like it falls down on the ground. And it renews us. It’s like you read in the Bible, showers of blessings. And when they do fall on us, besides bringing us joy and renewing us, it inspires others just like many poets and artists have been inspired by the rains they saw.

So, the question is, are you prepared for the rain? Are you ready to accept it? Have you made the decision to give away your temporary happiness for a longer one that inspires many others?

Preparing for the rain also includes something else. Planting the seeds. Preparing the fields for the rain. Those plants are going to grow up, transpire, and help bring about another rain. Are you planting seeds of hope, of resolutions and decisions. Just because you lost your New Year resolution does not mean it has to stay that way. Try again and again and again. And those plants are going to grow, nourished by the rains of joy from your hard work and they will bear fruits of many a kind, nourishing and planting seeds of all these values in any and everyone who passes by you in this life.

I hope that this analogy has helped you to see life with new eyes. God made us to be the best. Let us not give up hope. Let us try harder.

My teddy bear!!

I believe we owe our little friends an apology for underestimating their problems.

‘I want me teddy! My teddy go!’

Ever heard that from a 3 year old? He means business. If that teddy bear ends up in your pocket or your bedroom drawer, you’re technically dead( if you don’t survive with major bruises)

Whoa!!!

We all have experiences with little kids. It’s maybe our baby brother or the little kid next door. In my case, I have a little sister. And I remember how we used to fight a lot over silly things like a potato chip or a cookie. Me being older, would end up winning because of matured diplomatic skills( funny isn’t it?)

Now that I’ve made you laugh( I certainly hope so) and your mind is clear, I would like to go into our post.

Have you ever thought that the problems a kid faces are so much smaller than yours?

I have. . .

But these days, I’ve realised that problems for them, are just as troubling.

Want to know why?

Here goes. . . .

When you are a kid, the farthest you may have been forced to venture in the world of problems would be around a teddy bear or an ice cream. But the point is that that’s all you’ve seen so far. A child’s brain is going to give him that mix of emotions when he loses his ice cream, that we humans all have when we face what we think has been our greatest problem so far.

Let’s say for the sake of conversation that that kid was born employed at a company. Let’s say that he saw first hand what it is to work and have major stress( as we call it). Well, then if he still goes on about teddy( which is highly unlikely), you have every right to be mad at him.

When I was in tenth grade, I thought that it was the hardest year I had come across, but now in my twelfth grade, believe me, I envy the tenth graders. When my seniors said tenth grade was so easy, I could not understand. I was going through major educational stress. 

when you’ve reached twelfth grade, your mind has grown and you’ve been exposed to more stress. So when you look from your new position, what has been passed seems so small. It’s like climbing a mountain. When you look down, everything that has been passed seems so easy compared to what you are going through and what is before you.

So, to all the teddy-bear-toddlers, I believe we owe our little friends an apology for underestimating their problems. Please do join in on the conversation with  your opinions and experiences. God bless you!!!

 

The Future of the Past

What did you do today to make that picture you saw the day before(about today) a reality?

DSC00544.JPG‘The charm of life has always been in the impossible and the new but it is in the possible and the now that the charm exists.’

This verse came to my mind a few days ago. The past week I was able to go on a fabulous tour that showed me how great our planet was when we see it as we see it on a canvas. It’s a painting in 3D. On that tour I came across what you could call a short trek. The end was a climb . It was lined with massive rocks that stuck to it like berries on an ice cream cone, threatening to fall down on me. Let’s just say I made it to the top. My friends had a great role in that. When I stood there, the wind making my hair go wild and my eyes blink, I thought of the determination that made those great climbers test their limits. Looking down I saw patches of land. It literally looked like pieces of cloth sewed together. It was amazing.

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Sorry about all that rambling but I hope some of you enjoyed it.

So, I am going to ask that question I ask myself every time I write a post. It’s a good way to give an introduction and to tell you where this is heading.

What is this post about?

It’s about how you look at things in the present and how you should look at things in the future.

We often forget that though the present may not be that interesting, it was the future of the past. Let’s break it down to a basic picture.

Think of what you thought about today, yesterday.

Well if you ask me. I thought of ‘tomorrow’ yesterday as something to hope for. It was a picture that brought to life hope, happiness, peace and mystery.

But was today like that?

Maybe it was for some of you and maybe it wasn’t. But that’s not what I would like to bring to your attention. What I would like to bring to your attention is:

What did you do today to make that picture you saw the day before a reality?

The mistake we all have made so often in life is that we kept on dreaming but never thought of what we should do to make it a reality. We spent the past dreaming, we spend the present dreaming, and if the equation is not going to change, we could end up dreaming in the future too. But this equation will give the right results only when it is multiplied with hard work and determination.

We can’t change the past. We all have dreams. And there is nothing wrong with it making its presence known in every tense of life. But we must not forget that dreams are meant to be a reality.

So what should we do?

Take time to think what you could do to make the present what you hoped for in the past. And believe me when you feel that you’ve accomplished even a small fragment of that goal, more dreams will pile in. You will realise that those dreams have many things in common and you can climb that giant rock, that great mountain, knowing that when you reach the top, you’ll be able to see what those many dreams look like together. And believe me those patches of dreams will all be stitched together to form a great scene. One that you, you friends, your family and everyone who comes into that climb of life with you will be able to cherish.

Thanks for reading this and I’ll try and put up some more photos of my trip in the coming posts. God bless you!!!1

 

LIFE’S ORCHESTRA

Life is a song sung by you. It’s up to you whether to go solo or to form an orchestra.

I’ve always loved music. When I’m around music, it’s like I’m in my own space, my natural habitat. This is one of the reasons why I’ve always loved putting together music and life. And every time, I find a new combination. It’s pretty much like cooking in the kitchen.

So what did I find out this time?

That life is a song sung by you. It’s up to you whether to go solo or to form an orchestra.

I’ve always loved how the science of music has a lot to do with the life of a human  being. Sometimes it starts with the subtle breezy cello and ends with a crescendo of a live orchestra( fireworks are optional) and sometimes it starts with a crescendo and ends with a subtle note. Life is sometimes like that. Sometimes it’s slow strings all the way and sometimes it’s heavy and you can hear the drums roll and roll again.

What I like about this theory is how every life is always a song. As unique people, we all have different tastes for music. Some like the classic rock ‘n’ roll and some like the slow songs. It’s the same out here in the real world. Our choice of friends is an example. But the truth is every song will have a devoted listener. Just because you don’t like a song it doesn’t mean that there isn’t somebody out there who is going to love it.

Something we often forget is the fact that music is made not to just entertain, but to comfort, to nourish and to build you back up. You may not find it entertaining but somebody else is going to find it comforting and encouraging. In other words, no music is useless.

Well, what does that mean?

It means that no life is useless. 

Your life is a song that God already knows everything about and he did not think it was useless because he made you. So, when you feel like no one wants you and you’re dead weight, remember there is someone out there who loves you and needs your comfort, a comfort only you may be able to give.

The next part of this post is about the way you produce your song. If you are able to put in the right amount of passion, faith, love, courage and soul into your music, it’s going to be on the top of the charts for a long time. Your song of life could reverberate into centuries like Mozart and Beethoven.

You can go solo or you can learn to be a team player. You can shut everybody out of your life and go solo only to realise in the end that you’ve missed on all those magical notes. You can’t play all the instruments. You have to let somebody into your life to help you out. And that somebody should be trustworthy. Learn to be around people who will build you up and keep you there, not people who will kick you down to get higher. Remember the background music sets the mood for you to sing, so it has a great influence. So choose what you should listen to and who you should listen to.

And last but not least.

Once you get there and you are famous and people start to look up to you. Remember your teammates. Remember that they were the ones who set the mood for you to sing. Walk with them through their good times and their bad times and soon you will realise that it is what keeps your song alive.