We all hate solitude. I have already published a post on that. Today, I would like to share with you something that passed through my mind. It’s one of those things that just flick past your mind when you’re bored. Luckily, I was able to retrieve it from my line of thoughts.
When did people start living together in groups?
When did the first form of civilization come into being?
Naturally, you’ll be surprised to see that I find it interesting. In fact I find it amazing.
When I was about 7 years old (that will be about 10 years back), I was taught of how civilization first came into being. People started living together for protection, due to proximity of water and good food, and to grow crops together.
But the problem is:
I don’t believe that’s the main reason!
Well, first of all you’ve got to relive the circumstances they had to go through. The world you see today is not the world they walked on. There was more food, more water and more area to settle on. Besides, in such a big world with evidently much fewer people, you only come across another human being in what could be days, or even months.
You are somebody from the stone age or ice age or whatever they call it. You’ve found a piece of land with much food and water. You know it could last you for days. You have finally found a place where you can rest for a while. That’s when things change. Somebody else walks in on your turf and wants to share it with you.
Well, from what we learnt in History at school, one of them ends up dead. That’s a practical explanation we learnt to every encounter in connection with those times. But then, how did people form civilizations? It must have started from one person meeting another.
Trade. Perhaps. . .
But here’s my theory:
When you’ve been alone for a long time and you see someone like you, the fear that may grip you is accompanied with the curiosity of what his behavior would be like. And when you’ve once realized the joy of company, you will want more of it. You take the decision to face the dangers of life as a team. You realise that two hands are better than one. When someone else walks in on your turf again, you invite them in to join the group. More company. When the number grows, your urge for company turns into an urge for attention and recognition. This leads to trickery and domination of muscle power. Competition turns some into losers and others into leaders. Civilization is soon defined in time.
I believe it is a reason above all others. Why?
You may remember that time when you were just a toddler, and the kid who lived nearby came over to play. The peaceful visit ended in fist fights and tantrums all because he touched your ‘Teddy’. As time goes on you learn to share and receive.
Your love for company compels you to share.
Your love for company teaches you to accept the other’s differences and work together as a team.
Your love for company creates civilization.
Give company to many who may be missing it today. Even where there is no language, there is company. This is why we define having pets as having company.
Be a listener, be a company- giver. . . .