First of all, I’d like to apologise to all those who just googled the title of this post. I just thought I should contribute to the English vocabulary sometime.
Anyway, what is a hear-listener?
Well, a hear-listener is somebody who hears everything but never listens. But he believes that he has been listening. You hear a lot of things but when you pay attention to what you hear, you listen.
This thought was a wake up call for me.
Today, I’m going to talk to you about communication.
Are you a very communicative person?
Most of you would give me a thumbs up for that question. But I would like to point out an important factor about communication.
It requires two people.
Sounds like something you already knew. Right?
But what it means is that both the speakers and their respective contribution to the discussion is equally important. A healthy communication is only possible when there is an equilibrium.
It is sad to say that most of the time, communication becomes a one man show. One of them could just doze off and the other will keep on monologuing.
That is a bit funny, isn’t it?
But it also shows how man has forgotten the joy of a good talk.
And the funny thing is we know it. Take a look at the movies we see today. Even the ‘good mornings’ are said while the speaker’s eyes that are glued to a newspaper or a computer screen.
So, I took a decision. When I’m around my friends, I am going to be hearer or a listner. Never a hear-listener. There are some things that you are supposed to only hear and others you are supposed to listen to. When you are supposed to listen, ask youeself,
Am I hearing?
And when you are supposed to just hear, make sure you are not listening.
Communication is an important part of a human being. The Bible tells us:
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”
Just as what we hear or listen to, what we speak is important. We all need to rethink about what we are going to say. Every word that comes out of our mouth starts what I’d like to call a chain reaction. It passes on from one person to another.
Just as the tongue is the strongest muscle in the human body, it is what that usually hurts most because it is used to speak directly to the heart of another human being.
‘Let our words be life. Let our words be truth.’ I got this from ‘words’ by Hawk Nelson. It is a beautiful song.
Yes, we all fail sometimes. Just like what we say directly affects the heart of another, what affects our heart usually directly affects what we say. This is why it is so hard to tame the tongue. But we can, if we learn to tame our hearts.
So brothers and sisters, take this as a challenge. I have already decided to try hard. Join me in this venture, a venture that can change hearts.